BULLIES...

To be or not to be a Bully. Bullies are created not born. A newborn infant is not automatically a bully, so where is it coming from. Turn on the TV, listen to the message that is being sent out by some. Threats that are so causally said with no regard for one's feelings. Politicians are guilty of this as we have just seen and heard during this last election. Some of the Celebrities have demonstrated some vile behavior. Children and young adults are also included.

It's way past due to start looking deeper into this problem. We as as a people have gone way off track as to what is acceptable and what is not. We have even more school age children reenacting this terrible behavior.

Our children deserve better and it is time to stand up and say NO MORE! It takes a village to raise our children. Has the village gone on vacation or what? Do you really know how your child is digesting all of this negativity and Bulling attitudes. Some of them wait until the parent is out of sight and demonstrate the same behavior. You as a parent might say never, not my child, but as the old saying goes, never say never.
There used to be a time when behavioral standards were set very high, now the bar is below what is needed to have a healthy and stable family.It is sad to think that in the long run that the repetitive bulling and negative behavior will become the norm in our society.

TEENS AND FEARS IN SCHOOL

The attitude of some teens in school seems to be, "If I fail in school because I did not try, is better than failing when I did try. There are some teens who have this attitude. The fear of  what their friends or teachers and even what their parents might say is affecting how teens are approaching the problem.

I would think that all parents are teaching their school age children to try and try again until they succeed. This message is not reaching all of our children. It is so very important for them to know that you are supporting them and understand if they really try to succeed.They might have to switch to another subject.

Not to try at all is not the solution. That would be creating more problems for them later on in life. Instilling confidence and self esteem is a couple of the most important things a parent have to master. It is up to the parent to find out from your child exactly how they feel  about  the issue of succeeding in school. You need to know if they are having a problem with any subject, which would cause them not to apply themselves.

If your child's grades are not up to par, don't wait, discuss the issue now. They might have this same attitude, which can spread like wildfire. Communication is vital  in this situation. A yelling match is not what is needed, but listening and trying to understand their point of view and guiding them away from the idea of not trying, and letting them  know that they are in control of making every effort that they can to succeed.

Let them know that you will still love them if they do not succeed in something and them loving you back means they did at least try.

   

Bullies in School

Parents of these School  Bullies, where are you? Most parents know what type of child they are raising, you can't say that you did not know that your child  was causing havoc or causing grief to another child. If you are in the same household and parenting your children, then you have an inkling of what your child may be doing just by the conversation they hold, the friends they hang around with and their general attitude.
Most parents might say " I am not teaching them to be a bully", of course not, but it is up to you to pay close attention to your child when suspected of such a vile act and do something about it.
This act of bulling is causing other children to suffer and is unjust, such as little Phoebe, who ended her life due the pressure of bulling from the kids in her school. So very sad,  because it did not have to happen to her or anyone else.
Of all the children in that school, none of them told their parents, and if so no one did anything about it. You might say " my child was not involved". Well if we continue to let it happen, it will eventually be your child or some one's child. There seems to be a secrecy revolving around the bulling, which means if a child is bullied they had better not tell or else. Children need to be told it is the right thing to do, and that is to tell a parent or school counselor or an adult, not their friends, because they are afraid also. Bullies need proffessional help.